FFFF'ed up in Florida

let's say a guy's girlfriend (a nineteen year old) told him that looking at pornography was the same as cheating on her. how would he explain that it's not cheating and if he didn't do it he'd somehow be less of a man? porn is normal for a 23 year old guy isn't it? can we take a survery??? thanks nerdie :)

Dear FFFF'ed up in Florida I would say that perhaps his girlfriend is a bit self conscious about her body and that when she sees you looking at other naked women it makes her feel like maybe you wish she looked more like them? I do believe however, that porn can be a very natural thing for most guys. I think for this I may take a bit from a that 70's show episode that I recall where Donna found Eric's porn magazines under his bed. The guys explained to Donna that if Eric was dating someone like the women in the magazines, he would be looking at porn of her. Guys will be guys. If everytime you wanted to use her for your manly urges, you actually used her for your manly urges, she might be exhausted. As long as porn isn't becoming your life, or that you wouldn't actually rather relieve yourself to some porn than actually be intimate with your girlfriend, I don't see any reason for it to be considered unhealthy. The best thing to do is to sit down with your girlfriend after coming up with some logical reasons why you personally look at porn. Make sure you never EVER compare her to a porn star. And make sure she knows just how you feel about her and how beautiful you think she is, that she is much more than a porn star or a porn magazine could ever be to you. With that said, it's your life, you don't bitch about the lifetime network movies (or insert whatever here) that she watches or the hunks on tv she might find appealing, she can't really expect to take porn away from you.